Call 911 if you are in physical danger. You can dial 911 from your cell phone or landline.
You can also use Video Relay Service to contact emergency services.
National Hotline: Deaf hotline advocates are available from 9-5 (PST) M-F
AIM: Deaf Hotline
Hearing advocates at the National Hotline are available 24 hours a day.
Our Advocates can offer information and options, and we also help you design your safety plan. We can connect you with people who are involved in your situation or need to be involved, including but not limited to: lawyers, hospitals, child/adult protective services staff, counselors, emergency/safe shelter and housing systems, and supportive family members/friends and Deaf Community. We help you learn about your rights as a victim/survivor, and the rights of Deaf people to have interpreters and fair access to all systems. We will support you whether the police are involved or not and whether you want to leave the abuser or not. We will work with you for as long as you want, until you feel safe.
If you would like to contact an advocate, please reach us at:
Am I being abused?
Does your partner:
- Embarrass you with put-downs?
- Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
- Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
- Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
- Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
- Make all of the decisions?
- Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
- Prevent you from working or attending school?
- Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
- Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
- Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
- Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
- Force you to try and drop charges?
- Threaten to commit suicide?
- Threaten to kill you?
If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.
- frightened by your spouse’s, boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s, family members’, lover’s/partner’s, roomate’s temper?
- afraid to disagree with him or her?
- often apologetic for his/her behavior?
- hit, kicked, shoved, grabbed or have things thrown at you by your partner?
- unable to see your family and friends sometimes because of his/her jealousy?
- afraid to say “no” to sex? … forced to have sex?
- unable to go out, get a job or go to school without his/her permission?
- prevented from using TTY, email, pager or videophone while he/she is gone so you cannot contact anyone?
If you answered “yes” to two or more of these questions, you are in a relationship that is abusive or likely to become abusive. Contact us.
We’ll help you create a safety plan
Safety planning is an important process for each survivor. There are ideas for safety planning while in a relationship, after leaving, if you experience stalking, and many other scenarios. Your personal safety plan will change over time and depending on the situation. Your safety plan should include your children. Consider your safety at work, home, anywhere you may go. You may contact an advocate at IGNITE for assistance.
Here are some general resources in Monroe County: